Wow, so much to think about here. Of course, so often we shield ourselves in language without even realizing that we're doing it. I think you're right that when we are specific, things can often become solvable. It sounds like it can be a challenge having to be aware of your speech all the time in this way, but also there is value in being forced to think about what you really mean
I agree Kate, it has made me so much more aware of the words I use and responding honestly to questions…and when you start to think about phrases we use so much of it makes no sense!!
oh you're so right, specificity IS brave. What a fantastic article. I definitely hide within generalities to avoid many things - confrontation, embarrassment, deeper thinking, being rejected .....oh my goodness, the more I think about it the more concerned I become about how long this list is going to be! What a challenge, to say exactly what you mean! I suspect that as clear as you may think you are, it doesn't prevent miscommunications just minimises them, maybe....?
Yes I think you’re right, humans are emotional creatures and nuances are so important that it’s unrealistic to completely avoid miscommunication. But wouldn’t it be wonderful to live in a world where people said what they meant?! In a kind, compassionate way of course, but how refreshing?!
Wow, thank you for sharing this. Language is so powerful and specificity in speech is actually such a good challenge for us all.
Excellent analysis of specificity in language from your concrete personal experience.
Wow, so much to think about here. Of course, so often we shield ourselves in language without even realizing that we're doing it. I think you're right that when we are specific, things can often become solvable. It sounds like it can be a challenge having to be aware of your speech all the time in this way, but also there is value in being forced to think about what you really mean
I agree Kate, it has made me so much more aware of the words I use and responding honestly to questions…and when you start to think about phrases we use so much of it makes no sense!!
oh you're so right, specificity IS brave. What a fantastic article. I definitely hide within generalities to avoid many things - confrontation, embarrassment, deeper thinking, being rejected .....oh my goodness, the more I think about it the more concerned I become about how long this list is going to be! What a challenge, to say exactly what you mean! I suspect that as clear as you may think you are, it doesn't prevent miscommunications just minimises them, maybe....?
Yes I think you’re right, humans are emotional creatures and nuances are so important that it’s unrealistic to completely avoid miscommunication. But wouldn’t it be wonderful to live in a world where people said what they meant?! In a kind, compassionate way of course, but how refreshing?!
in a word: yes!